Language, one of the most complex things on our planet. A few words structured in one way opposed to the same words structured in another can create opposite outcomes. No doubt every human has been there trying to get a message across and getting greeted with a completely baffling response right?
When raising children the words we use literally shape their brain and their understanding of the world. Every human goes through the phase of intense enquiry blurting out the words ‘What is this?” over and over again. We as parents have an endless choice about how to respond right? Not only our responses though.
Our everyday language enters their ears and brains and has an immense impact.
Science tells us everyday language pivotal to lifelong thriving
One finding that is strongly highlighted in Dr Lisa Millers 30 years of scientific research into children’s spirituality and education is how the use of language that nourishes the spirit and thereby places a level of importance on acts of spirit in our daily life is pivotal to lifelong thriving.
If we can use this language in our every day our child grows knowing ‘spirit’ as a recognisable and powerful agent for their actions in the world. It is a part of self and part of something great, and the feeling and experience has a recognisable and everyday name attached to it. You with me?
During the early years when our brain is in Delta waves (approx 0-2yrs) and Theta waves (approx 2-6 yrs) we are in a super learning state and extremely connected to our internal worlds. To honour and nourish that internal world and place importance on it has profound impacts for our understanding of self, how we stay connected throughout our life and the world in which we share.
One really interesting part of this science is the research that states it doesn’t matter what we call that part of self or the ‘higher power’ of our existence – god, mother earth, nature, great spirit, the universe, buddha etc, or whether it’s just the animals and plants. But what is important is that it is referred to in everyday language. It’s about a relationship with something unseen or in modern science its called the ‘transcendent relationship’.
That is what is important to keep. Because whether you remember or not we all had it as children. Loud, clear and strong – perhaps you are lucky enough to still have it now or get glimpses at least!
So this language puts an awareness about that ‘energy’ into their every day so when our little people experience acts or feelings with that energy behind them they know where to place it.
What’s your language and how does it honour their connection?
So how can you use language in your every day that nourishes and places the spiritual world as an element of significant importance for your luminous little offspring?
Perhaps establishing a language to go with our own spiritual life is a good place to start. And remember you don’t need answers, but it does help if you are your partner / wife / husband / family have a common language that can be referred to and used throughout the family.
Dr Lisa Miller highlights some beautiful words to use that can become part of your child’s spiritual vocabulary through your own use. These are “field of love, direct knowing, heart knowing, head knowing, inner compass, spiritual compass, culture of love versus culture of judgement, feeling part of the oneness, synchronicity, sanctity, connection with spirit.”
These words may work for you but if not create your own. The important part is the language you use educates your child on their own inner life giving them a way to find meaning literally and symbolically through language. This gives them the life long skill of being able to qualify those experiences that are from a part of ourselves that existed long before this physical body we find ourselves in now. And that is something to celebrate and keep at the forefront of this earthly journey. So what’s your lingo?